Have you been in close relationship when it was abruptly ended....all modes of communication cut off without any warning ?

 

It's happened to me before. Was talking to this girl online for a while (met her here actually), I'd say about a month or so. Talked everyday, skyped, sexted, etc. One day she just didn't text me. A whole weekend passed of me texting asking if she was at least alright, and finally after 3 days she replied that she had gotten back together with her bf and didn't know how to tell me so instead just hoped I'd go away on my own. That shit cut deep, like I didn't even deserve a basic explanation. I'm a big boy, I can handle honesty lol but it did cause some trust issues for a while. If I didn't hear back from a person quickly my mind started spiraling out of control. "Did I say something to make her leave? She's probably busy but what if she's just fucking with some dude and these messages mean nothing?" It fucked me up for about a year I'd say. I'm mostly over it now, I'll sometimes have thoughts like that but I've matured past most of them and know people have lives and texts and such really aren't all that important, but just appreciate what you get and enjoy the ride. But it was a rough lesson to learn. I really wished she'd just trusted me enough to tell me straight up and be honest, at least let me feel as if I'm worth some semblance of decency :/

 

The internet makes it so easy for normal people to be cold and heartless, and eaiser still for scammers to exploit others.

 

Yes I understand it is easy to do it by cyber means......but has anyone suffered this fate in the real world ?

 

Yeah, I did. It was my first relationship after divorcing the first wife. It was a rebound thing and she thought she was gonna get her claws on my settlement. I knew she was using me but what she didn't know was, I knew it . She was young, sexy and I couldn't get enough of it.
When she got wise to the fact she wasn't gonna get anything, she was a goner. I guess I wasn't so irresistible after all....

 

There was an article in a national earlier this week saying that is becoming more common and cited three cases.

 

I did see it happen to someone, and it was the most dismaying thing.

Cowardice, really. Just own up to your decision, articulate it, walk away. Boom, done.

Ghosting is cruel.

 

It seems it is a by product of modern communication......cowardice

 

Yes. It's a common tactic of people who aren't adult enough to end things and has been for a long time. It's something a lot of guys do when they're young.

 

So ..tree falls in the forest question here: is it a ghost if they come back to haunt a few years later?

 

That's a good question, @Sia.

I think the ghosting will always be there but the person can redeem him or herself if given a chance to. It depends on the circumstances of the ghosting and the way the ghostee sees the ghoster.

 

I hang up on telemarketers

 

to be or not to be , is the riddle

 

a duck i was feeding in the park did that to me once, i got back on the horse and started feeding the pigeons in the same park near its duck pals out of spite. i felt so vindicated that day

 

I've been toasted. I've been hosted. I've posted. I've coasted.
I've even had the pleasure of being spit-roasted. (And yes, I boasted!)
Lucky, I'd say, I've never been ghosted
With yelling and blaming, mine ended like most did.

Ghosting sounds kinda cowardly, I must say.

 

I have only been ghosted online, and although it hurt at the time, it was a good lesson for me to learn about allowing myself to get emotionally attached to someone I’ve never actually met.

I got very attached to one of the first guys I chatted with here, and after chatting for a month or so, had plans to meet up. He suddenly stopped all communication with me and I didn’t know why until I found out he had met someone else and gotten very obsessed with her.

Ironically enough, when things with her went downhill, he did come back and apologize for the way he had handled it, and we’ve managed to become friends now.

I haven’t forgotten the lesson I learned though.

 

I didn't realise there were so many people here trying to deal on a daily basis with anxiety and its subsequent outcomes. If you have a SO who understands and empathises with what you go through you have a chance of beating, the Black Dog, in my case. If your SO does not get what you are trying to combat, the problem is almost without remedy.

 

I've never had a romantic relationship end with a ghosting, but I've lost count of the online friends who have simply dropped out of sight and emails go unanswered.

It's not really that difficult to understand. When a person shares intimate details of their life, it's easy to feel as if there is a real bond, but it's also a symptom of a life in turmoil. They need someone to share with, or better yet a refuge from whatever is going on. Circumstances like that can't last long. Sooner or later, something breaks and everything changes. An online friend is very expendable baggage.

I got semi-ghosted one time by a woman who said she couldn't talk to me anymore because she couldn't resist masturbating later. I really couldn't understand the problem, because that was sort of the point of the emails, but she was Church of Latter Day Saints. Apparently, the Church discourages that sort of thing and it was weighing on her conscience.